That's a great question, and honestly, the word "control" can be tricky. Sometimes trying to control something too tightly just makes it fight back harder. What often works better is shifting from "controlling" to "managing." Think of it like steering a boat rather than gripping the wheel until your knuckles turn white. You make small adjustments as you go. Start by noticing what's happening without judging it. If it's a feeling or a thought, just name itâ"Okay, that's anxiety," or "There's that urge again." That simple pause creates a little space between you and the experience, and in that space, you have more room to choose your response. Deep breathing can really help ground you in those moments. Itâs not about stopping the feeling, but about calming your nervous system so you don't feel so swept away by it. What kind of situation are you dealing with? Knowing a bit more could help me offer something more specific.
