I tend to overthink a lot and complicate things even before they happen
Oh, I feel this one. Overthinking is exhausting because you're basically living through the hard part multiple times before it even shows up—if it ever does. Here's something that's helped me and a lot of people I've talked to: when you notice the spiral starting, ask yourself one question—"What's actually happening right now?" Not what might happen, not what could go wrong. Just right now. Most of the time, the answer is pretty boring. You're sitting on your couch. You're making coffee. Nothing's on fire. The other thing is giving your brain something concrete to do. Overthinking loves open space. So write down the thing you're worried about and then write down the very next small step you can actually take. Just one. Not the whole plan—one step. Action tends to quiet the noise way better than trying to think your way out of it. And honestly? Some of what you're doing is your brain trying to protect you. It's not a character flaw. It's just a habit that's gotten a little too loud. You don't have to fix this overnight. Just start catching yourself a little earlier each time. That's it.
